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The Comparison Trap

January 16, 2015

I have been having so much fun receiving responses from people trying out new recipes, organizing, painting furniture and just having a good time trying out new projects. It has really encouraged my heart so much! Personally, there is something so satisfying about creating. I hope that you all got satisfaction out of it too! 

Earlier today, I met with my girlfriend, Gen to check out her awesome and newly transformed dining room (pics to come on Tuesday) and have some time to catch up while Emmy sang her heart away and constantly ate snacks. #nosurprisethere  One of the things we talked about was how easy it was as women to compare ourselves with others. The comparison trap is just that. It’s a pitfall and it’s a dangerous place for our minds to fall into because we can so easily allow the enemy to speak things like, “you’re not good enough,” “look how better that person has it,” etc. At times it can be a passing thought and at others, it can linger and really plant themselves into our hearts. The consequences can be feelings of worthlessness, insecurity, jealousy, entitlement and even hatred. But the truth says, 

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:31-32

I have a girlfriend who is unbelievably smart. She works in a high corporate position and constantly works with large investment firms and brokers deals or something like that. ha! Honestly, I don’t know how she does it but I do know she is truly gifted with a highly intelligent  and sharp brain that allows her to do her job so well. Even if she tried to explain to me what she did, it would probably sound like she was speaking Russian. I have some other friends who are amazing teachers. I’m so thankful for people like them because they are the ones putting in so much dedication and care to educating our kids. Honestly, I couldn’t begin to fill either one of those two jobs. I am thankful for those women out there being dentists, doctors, cashiers, mothers, nurses, caretakers etc. Each one of us have our own giftings and roles and it’s important to encourage and affirm them in one another. We shouldn’t have to minimize someone else’s gifts and passions so that ours can shine a little brighter. 

There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord.  There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work. 1 Corinthians 12:4-6

I look at my kids and see how different each one of them is and wonder what gifts and passions God is developing in their little hearts right at this moment. It’s a bit humbling and overwhelming at times to think that I play a huge role in helping them discover these gifts. It only shows as another beautiful reminder to how how unique every individual is. 

And I leave you with two awesome pictures just in case you thought I was always organized and had a perfect home…..

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 #keepinitrealfolks Feel better now dontcha? 

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Yup, that would be my baby trying to climb the table with papers and popcorn all over the floor. Maybe when I muster up the courage, I’ll show you my laundry room one day. 😀 

Have a great weekend folks and go be a cheerleader for someone today!

<><yuni

But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! Galatians 5:22-23

 

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  1. Vernadine says

    January 16, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    Very true, good word for this week! Thanks for posting!

    • Yuni Min says

      January 16, 2015 at 11:09 pm

      🙂 thank you, vernadine!

      • Adrienne says

        January 17, 2015 at 9:09 am

        It is so easy to compare ourselves to others these days, especially with social media like Facebook where people tend to show their best sides. Thanks for being so real Yuni! ❤️

        • Yuni Min says

          January 17, 2015 at 10:54 pm

          thanks, adrienne! love you, dear friend! 🙂

  2. Karolyn says

    January 19, 2015 at 2:36 pm

    Love your transparency Yuni! The pictures just affirmed you really are flesh and blood just like the rest of us moms! Love it!

    • Yuni Min says

      January 19, 2015 at 8:02 pm

      Thank you, Karolyn! Thanks for always encouraging me as a veteran mom of 3! 🙂

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